Statistics show that roughly 50% of marriages will end in divorce.
That’s a sad fact, I know, especially when you consider how many other couples are in marriages that they aren’t happy with.
You probably fall into that category right now, but let me tell you, it doesn’t have to end in divorce!
Typically, when one or both parties in the marriage are unhappy, things fall into a downward spiral, and the marriage becomes tougher and tougher to deal with.
You no longer talk; you yell and argue.
And if you’re lucky enough to have things «going your way», maybe you just get the silent treatment.
Deep down, you know what the problems in your marriage really are. And you’ve told your spouse about them.
They just don’t seem to understand, or seem to see it your way.
If you have a partner who is actually willing to work to save your marriage, then you’ve probably thought about going through marriage therapy and seeing a counselor.
But before you do that, I want to tell you to STOP!
If your marriage is in crisis, one of the worst things you can do is see a marriage counselor!
I know you’re thinking this must be crazy, but you’re more likely to have your marriage end in divorce than actually stop your divorce from happening. In fact, studies have shown that 75% of couples who see a marriage counselor report being worse off, or even divorced, after they see a counselor!
Stats like that answer the question you had in your head when you started searching for help. No, marriage counseling doesn’t work!
Why doesn’t it work?
The answer may not surprise you, particularly if you’ve already been to see a therapist to help fix your marriage. The counselor will get you and your partner into a room, act as a mediator, and get you to focus on all the things that are WRONG with your marriage.
This is counter intuitive, and it doesn’t work! This system of helping your relationship actually gets you to focus on the negatives of your marriage. You’re not pointing out the good that you have built.
Having a counselor present and acting as a «mediator» creates a false sense of security that you can actually say anything to your partner and it will be okay.
This couldn’t be further from the truth.
It actually creates anger and hostility, because it essentially turns into a session of you telling your partner how bad they make you feel. And no one wants to be told that all they do is hurt the one they love.
So the next question you’re asking is «How Do I Save My Marriage?»
We get this one all the time. And this is where we emphasize the difference between «Marriage Counseling» and «Marriage Fitness».
Marriage Fitness is a system developed my the well known Mort Fertel.
Morte is an authority on psychology and relationships, and one of the leading experts teaching couples how to save their marriage and stop their divorce.
In his marriage boot camp, Mort teaches couples to focus on the positives in the relationship, not the negatives. He essentially tells you to put the negatives out of your mind and start focusing and sharing with your spouse what they do great, and what you love about them.
This is the way to make your partner feel special, feel wanted, and feel like they do have a marriage that’s worth saving. And when your partner begins to share with you things they love about you, things you never knew they appreciated, you too will begin to fall in love all over again.
Marriage fitness boot camp isn’t an overnight process.
It takes time to develop. In fact, Fertel suggests that in order to establish the proper foundation and rebuild trust and love, a couple could expect the process to take around 14 weeks!
While that may not be what you were looking for, I can testify that anyone trying to tell you that they can fix your marriage overnight isn’t worth a damn!
At this point, you have a choice.
You can leave your marriage, or you can work on it and try to fix it. My guess is since you’re reading this, you’re more interested in ending the marriage crisis you’re in want to bring back the love in your relationship.
By now, I hope you know the difference between Marriage Counseling and Marriage Fitness. And I hope you don’t make the mistake of finding some online marriage counselor that is just looking for you to send them money.
Go with a proven winner at saving relationships.
If you want to learn more about Mort Fertel and his Marriage Fitness Programs, you can do so by visiting his site and signing up for a FREE Report: «7 Secrets For How To Save A Marriage».
In addition, you’ll get access to 5 Free Marriage Assessment Quizzes to help you gauge how much help your marriage needs.